Category: Personal Growth

Fear is an emotion that is common in daily life. The triggers of fear and the extent to which it grips us varies from a single, quirky reaction to a debilitating phobia that hinders quality of life. In some instances, fear is healthy as it keeps us out of danger (e.g., obeying a sign that suggests we not get too close to the edge of a cliff). Other instances in which we experience fear can be an overreaction to a situation (e.g., worrying about what people will think of me when I get up to speak).

Why We Let Fear In

We can use fear as an impetus to act or excuse to withdraw. Author and marketing expert Seth Godin encourages us to allow ourselves to be scared. Are you up for doing the very thing that is the source of worry the next time you are scared ?

It is sad that we enable fear to have power over us in work, relationships, hobbies, and more. Why do we give fear free rein to hold us back? Among the reasons I have observed in my own behavior and others are:

Concern for physical safety. Worries about the effects of an activity on our physical state are among the most common phobias. A list of 10 of the most common phobias includes acrophobia (fear of heights) and aerophobia (fear of flying). Two other fears on the list, arachnophobia (fear of spiders) and ophidiophobia (fear of snakes), are rooted in fears about how these creatures could harm. Although I do not have these fears, I empathize with persons who experience them.

Concern for we are perceived. Social phobia also is on the list of the most common fears. It is a broad category encompassing just about any social situation you can imagine: public speaking, small group interaction, even dining. We are afraid that others will see us as inadequate in some way and may even ridicule our shortcomings. Fear driven by concerns for how we are perceived ultimately are tied to our ego. We do not want to embarrass ourselves because pride could take a hit.

Instead of taking physical or emotional risk, fear holds us back from doing that thing that could harm us or make us look bad. Of course, that thing could also be a source of enjoyment and fulfillment… but we may never know.

Doing that Scary Thing

If you need an example of someone following Seth Godin’s advice, let us look to a young man who overcame a debilitating fear. A video widely circulated on social media recently chronicled the story of a boy named RJ. He had a fear that many people have: aquaphobia (fear of water). RJ’s father shared two videos of the child learning how to dive into water. In the first video, RJ is terrified. My heart broke for him as his body shook while he stood on the board, unable to coax himself to dive in the water.

The second video is also of RJ on a diving board, but the outcome is dramatically different.The uncontrollable shaking no longer grips him. After a few seconds of pondering action, RJ calmly plunges into the water. He did it! My guess is his reaction was similar to other children who overcome a fear to do something for the first time: “I want to do it again.”

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RJ’s journey to overcome fear is one from which we can learn. Whether a fear is legitimate or imagined, it is a fear nonetheless. We must overcome fear in order to remove it as an obstacle. RJ’s story also reminds us that we must be patient sometimes when dealing with fear. It took him two years to go from experiencing terror to diving into the pool. The first step is being open to the possibilities of overcoming a fear. RJ could have sworn to never step foot on a diving board again. If he had, the awesomeness of diving into the pool would never have happened.

One More Thing

A final takeaway from RJ’s story of overcoming aquaphobia is a reminder that we should avail ourselves of opportunities to learn from others, including children. Young people can teach us, even if they do not realize they are teaching. Thank you, RJ for showing us how to take on fear. RJ is living proof that if something scares you , it might be a good thing to try.

The NBA and NHL are officially in off-season, but teams in both leagues are making news this time of year. It is free agency season; most players whose contracts have expired and have a certain number of years of service are eligible to sign with any team that wants them. Elite players stand to receive multi-year contracts worth tens of millions of dollars. The NBA’s top free agent, Kevin Durant, is expected to sign a contract worth more than $200 million over five years.

The jaw-dropping salaries commanded by top free agents in the NBA and NHL come with one major assumption: They are being rewarded for past performance with an expectation they will continue playing at a high level with their new team. Sometimes it happens, sometimes it does not.

Teams sign free agents with fingers crossed that their new player will have a healthy, productive tenure with the team. Some players turn out to be the missing piece of a puzzle that when completed leads to championships. Other players perform as if their motivation was to get paid. They scored the lucrative contract and lose the hunger responsible for the big payday. Yet others appear as if they temporarily played beyond their abilities, leading teams to believe they were worthy of a long-term contract when in fact they were not.

The forces at work in sports free agency have implications for you, too. It is unlikely that employers will line up to woo you and offer a nine-figure contract join their organization. We do not have the luxury of riding past performance to a life-changing payday.

If we lean on past performance, we run the risk of obsolescence. Instead of relying on past performance create a record that speaks for itself, we need to prepare for future performance. What skill(s) do you need to sharpen or pick up to get up-to-date in your field? Is the quality of your professional network good enough to put you in the circles in which you want to be? Are you taking steps to get better, improving your “product” to be ready for the next opportunity?

Past performance is no guarantee of future results. Prepared performance leads to peak performance, which does guarantee better chances of desired future results.

With each passing year of my life, I realize how much I have valued comfort. Safety, security, risk aversion… whatever it is called, having it was a priority. However, I now realize that achieving this state involves trade-offs, passing on new or different opportunities in order to enjoy certainty.

My reaction to This One to Grow On quote was like having a glass of cold water thrown in my face. I felt startled, angry, sad, and excited all at the same time. Buddhist teacher and author Pema Chodron suggests that to fully experience life we must willingly step outside any safety nets we have created.

I Like the Nest

The prospect of venturing beyond the nest to have new experiences is intriguing. It also sounds like it could be risky and dangerous. Could we do it and at least keep one foot in the nest, just in case we need to return to avoid danger? Is that like having your cake and eating it, too? I guess it is asking too much, but hey, at least I thought I would ask. The answer is obvious if we admit it; all parts of us must leave the nest to immerse ourselves in ways that challenge us.

If we admit that Pema Chodron is right and we must get out of the nest to be fully alive, human, and awake, then why do we put up resistance to going there? For me, it comes down to two reasons: fear of the known and fear of the unknown.

• Fear of the known. An understandable reason for not setting foot outside the nest is knowledge that it is a dangerous world out there. The harsh reality that 80-90% of new businesses fail could be all the warning an aspiring entrepreneur needs to shelve her dream of owning her own business. Concerns about airplane safety and terrorism grounds many people who would otherwise take their dream vacation. We are more informed than ever before. If there is a downside, it could be that information could evoke concerns… even when it should not have such an effect.
• Fear of the unknown. While fear of the known can be reasons we cite for staying within the friendly confines of the nest, fear of the unknown can unwittingly have a paralyzing effect. I see it often in people who say they want to change or grow. They will bemoan the job in which they are mired, but when conversation shifts to making a change they begin to change their tune. Their miserable job does have some positives going for it, they say. Before long, they have talked themselves out of new opportunities in order to stay with what they know. Never mind that what they know sucks; at least they know what they are getting. Taking a new job would entail many uncertainties—new boss, co-workers, culture, customers, break room. Avoiding the unknown by staying put sounds secure, but it keeps us away from the possibilities that come with new opportunities.

Taking Flight

Here is where Chodron’s quote feeling like a splash of cold water in my face happened. A colleague came by my office a couple of months ago with an opportunity. She had taught a study abroad in Finland for a few years, but she was unable to go this year. Another colleague who had planned to go in her place now was unable to make the trip. My colleague came to me to ask if I would teach the class to maintain the momentum of the program. My travel abroad experience is limited to a handful of trips to Canada to visit family.

The opportunity to teach a class in Finland would not just be going outside the nest. It would require spreading my wings and traveling thousands of miles away for three weeks. It was not the first time I had been asked to consider teaching a study abroad class, and my initial reaction mirrored thoughts that previously came to mind. They were excuses I told myself why I could not or should not go. However, something was different this time. I had been editing old blog posts that spoke to my situation. With titles such as “Take a Flier and Do It” and “Life is not a Spectator Sport,” I realized the messages in those posts applied to the decision at hand. If I did not put the advice in those posts into practice, I might as well delete those blog posts because I would be practicing what I was saying.

Yes, I decided to leave the nest that is my comfort zone, and I am going to Finland in May for three weeks. Is the trip and preparing for the class challenging me? Are other opportunities taking a back seat for the time being? The answer to both questions is “yes,” but I can already sense that the experience will benefit me in many ways. The impact I stand to realize will happen only because of my willingness to be thrown out of my nest.

One to Grow On

Appreciate the security of the nest, but we must not allow it to become a fortress from which we try to live and fend off uncertainties. Good feelings arising from a comfort zone may be false signals preventing us from having even more enjoyment or fulfillment if we avail ourselves to it.

Time to be thrown out of the nest… care to join me?

In the journey that is life, we can either feel like we are taking the express lane to our destination or driving in circles. The former condition is one in which we have a clear purpose. In the latter condition, we are not moving confidently in any direction because, well, we do not know what direction is the right direction.

Having and recognizing a purpose is crucial to our productivity, growth, and quality of life. Knowing your purpose does not mean you are immune to adversity, but purpose gives direction to get back on track when setbacks happen.

This week, I am focusing on a quote by speaker an author John O’Leary. He remind us that purpose is not only our guiding light, it is an energy source to get through difficult times.

The quote by John O’Leary is not just some words cleverly strung together. He has lived them. O’Leary suffered third-degree burns over his entire body at age nine. Doctors said he would not survive. John O’Leary did more than survive. He recognized his purpose was to help people live inspired lives. He does just that today despite the physical limitations from being severely burned.

John O’Leary is driven by purpose. You need not have a near-death experience to find yours.

Purpose Can be Elusive

Knowing your why will see you through whatever tough times come your way. If it were really that simple, everyone would have their purpose plastered on their walls, bathroom mirror, and phone lock screen. Many people cannot put their purpose on a wall, mirror, or lock screen for a simple reason: They are unsure what their purpose is.

Given that knowing our purpose can give clarity to deal tough times, why do we not seek to find it? Purpose is elusive for the following reasons:

• We do not bother to find out. Calling out people’s apathy toward their purpose sounds harsh, but I believe some people are content not bothering to define their purpose. My point is not to suggest people in this category have no purpose (because they do). They are valued by others as parents, employees, volunteers, and friends. When it comes to clearly stating their why, for some reason they have not asked the question of themselves. They are prime candidates for being changed by inspirational people like John O’Leary.
• Someone answered the question for us. Believing in a purpose that someone else has set for you may be more dangerous than not having a purpose at all. You have heard the stories about the person who was expected to take the reigns of the family business, the college student who majored in accounting at the urging of her father, or the man whose mother steered him away from marrying the “wrong” woman. In all of these cases, one’s purpose was unduly influenced, if not determined, by someone else. Your purpose is just that—yours.
• We are afraid of the answer. Fully understanding our purpose can be one of the most empowering states we can achieve. It can also be a scary one. We may be afraid of the answer to our why question when it represents a departure from aimlessly wandering or following someone else’s view of our purpose. The young person who decides service to country in the military is his purpose has made a decision that will impact family and friends, not to mention creating significant change in his daily life. It would be safer and less traumatic to keep things as they are. It would also deny the person of the meaning derived from fulfilling purpose.

Finding Purpose

The thought that knowing your why enables us to endure any how is at the same time exhilarating and frightening. It is exhilarating to think that clarity of purpose can guide us in good times and bad. It is frightening to know the power of purpose yet be uncertain as to what is our purpose. If you find yourself feeling more frightened than exhilarated, a remedy is to ask questions that could help uncover your purpose.

In her book Story Driven: You Don’t Need to Compete When You Know Who You Are, business advisor and storytelling expert Bernadette Jiwa  refers to purpose as simply “the reason to exist.” Jiwa asserts that purpose is the cornerstone of creating a competitive advantage, perhaps because so many people and organizations have difficulty articulating their purpose.

In the context of creating a business or personal brand, Jiwa suggests reflecting on questions that could shed light on your why. If you cannot clearly state your purpose, answer the following questions:

• What’s the thing you’re most proud to have done to date?
• Who inspires you?
• Who would you like to be an inspiration to?
• What change are you trying to create?
• What makes your work important to your audience?

Answers to these questions could offer certainty to the overarching question of your reason to exist as a brand.

Why Power

Thinking about purpose, or reason to exist is a beneficial exercise regardless of how easy or hard it is to answer. Our purpose can be consumed by a never ending to-do list, putting out fires, and trudging through a daily routine. It is assuring to know the power of purpose, that my why can help me deal with whatever may come my way.

 

If I had to give myself a grade for being a starter, I would assign an A-. Taking a grade of A would not be right; I have a bit too much procrastination in me to rate the top score. However, I am comfortable taking a high grade. Why? I only needed to look at the filing system on my computer for evidence of many projects I have started. Many of those projects are no more than preliminary ideas that need refinement. Most of the ideas will never become a finished product. For some of the ideas, that outcome is the right one. For other ideas, my resistance to advance could cost me dearly.

This week, I am reflecting on a Chinese proverb that suggests it is normal to want to give up on ideas before they reach fruition. The temptation to quit may be normal, but it is the very time to stick to our guns and see a project through to completion.

Recognize the Resistance

The work of author Steven Pressfield immediately comes to mind when facing doubts and struggling to complete a project. Pressfield has written extensively on the challenges creatives and entrepreneurs face to transform ideas into reality. He has a name for the obstacles faced in navigating the creative process: The Resistance. If you feel unsure of your self, doubt your ability to succeed, or are outright scared, turns out you are normal. According to Pressfield, the more uncertainty you face, the better off you are. In his book The War of Art, Pressfield said:

“If you find yourself asking yourself (and your friends), “Am I really a writer? Am I really an artist?” chances are you are. The counterfeit innovator is wildly self-confident. The real one is scared to death.” 

Fear that you do not have what it takes to succeed on the project, job, or as a leader comes with the territory. Take comfort that you are a member of a large club… just don’t succumb to the fear and stop short of the finish line.

Deal with Fear

If you are doing any work of personal significance, something that stretches your capabilities and comfort, chances are you will question your ability to accomplish. In line with Steven Pressfield’s viewpoint, the likelihood of being tempted to quit increases the more invested you are in the work.

Fear is likely to land on your doorstep. How will you deal with it?

1. Remember fear is normal. We established this point already. The reason you are tempted to quit is not because you suck, it is because you are human. The inability to control the outcome of your work (and its acceptance) invites fear.
2. Recognize the source. As Steven Pressfield says, you are the enemy. Any fear, self-sabotage, or doubt that arises does not come from an outside source. The voice saying can competently and confidently do the work also questions your worth and performance ability. Listen to the former, not the latter.
3. Do the work. This three-word directive is another Steven Pressfield staple. Doing the work in the face of your own doubt is the antidote to self-imposed limitations. Another quote from The War of Art sums up the simple yet critical decision to do the work:

“The most important thing about art is to work. Nothing else matters except sitting down every day and trying.”

Don’t wait for permission, inspiration, or approval. Do what needs to be done.

The Takeaway

This Chinese proverb is one that I would benefit from regularly revisiting. One word describes what I will take with me from this quote: resolve. Temptation to give up is something that is not unique to us—we all struggle with walking away just before a breakthrough. The key to handling the struggle is recognizing its existence and resolving to work through it.

Another week, another quote about change. I reflected on change as a driver for growth in my last post (see “Change for the Better“). In short, personal growth will not occur without a willingness to acknowledge a need for change.

This week, attention shifts to consequences of not embracing change. Bill Clinton, the 42nd president of the United States, reminds us that the price of change can be exceeded by the price of being set in our ways.

This idea addresses the dark side of change: Ignore the need at your own peril.

Pay Now or Pay Later

The price of doing the same old thing is a bargain in the short run. For example, the couple that earns a decent income but struggles to make their paychecks last all month are not poor. Far from it, they are usually having a good time. Dining out, movies, vacations, and self-indulgences swallow a lion’s share of take-home pay. Saving for retirement or unforeseen expenses is not a high priority. So, nothing changes and they continue to earn a good income, manage to get by, and have inadequate savings. The day will come when they regret not changing their spending habits. They have chosen to pay later. The cost of doing the same old thing is a deferred expense (accruing interest) that will come due sooner rather than later. The bill comes due for doing the same old thing at inopportune times, and we are not given the option to set up a payment schedule.

In contrast, paying now to enable change can bring what seems like misery but makes possible new outcomes. I have lamented my physical condition for nearly two years. In that time, I opted to do the same old thing because nothing changed. It was as if the scale was stuck on the same weight. It only took two years, but I realized that the price of the same old thing was greater than the price of change. Now, I see changes I have made for my wellness as steps to reaching goals I have set. When I looked at the price of change in a different light, it was easy to say no to french fries, milkshakes, and skipping exercise. The benefits change will bring far outweigh saving myself from paying the price for change and maintaining status quo.

Find Your Tipping Point

The quest to a slimmer me is not my first such journey. In 2005 I shed 37 pounds, going from 200 to 163 pounds in about five months. I paid the price of change at that time only after years of choosing to pay the price of doing the same old thing. In recent years, I enjoyed myself to the point that I had put back on about two-thirds of the lost weight.  Now and then the catalyst for change was simple: I reached a tipping point and decided “no more.”

The price for doing the same old thing had become too expensive. My wellness demanded change. The price of change felt like a bargain the first time, and I cannot wait to experience the value arising from change. As I see the first signs of change I am stoked about losing the first few pounds and moving toward my goals. Price to change? What price?

Discretionary Spend

Enough about my situation—you have a decision to make regarding change. Pursuing change in your life is a form of discretionary spending. In most cases, you are not required to change but you consider different outcomes. Like any other discretionary spend, you must determine whether you want to invest in change or keep things as is.

Whether it is a stressful job, noisy neighborhood, or toxic relationship, you can spend on one of two outcomes: the same old thing or change. Standing pat could feel like a better deal now, but would spending on change yield even more fruit and blessings? If yes, change is a bargain too good to pass on.

We are into the second week of the second half of 2018. How are things going at halftime? The beginning of the year and any goals or New Year’s resolutions set may be nothing more than a grainy image in the rear-view mirror. The plans to lose weight, read regularly, worry less, and turn off screens occasionally may have derailed. You feel like you are stuck in a ditch rather than driving down the road of good intentions.

The FIFA World Cup has been exciting to watch. At halftime of game broadcasts, experts discuss each side’s performance in the first half and what must be done in the second half to come out on top. We, too, need to perform a halftime analysis on our performance. Unless we are dominating in every area of life, the midpoint of the year is an ideal opportunity to refocus and reset.

This week’s One to Grow On quote is a timely halftime message.  Entrepreneur and personal branding expert Chris Ducker knows us too well. Ducker suggests if we want to find the key to making things better simply look in the mirror.

Confront the Brutal Facts

Wait a minute, my shortcomings so far this year are not my fault. My main competitor launched a killer new product, my boss does not appreciate my value, or my significant is more interested in Instagram than me. I’m not getting what I want, but I am a victim of circumstance. Sound about right?

Instead of looking externally to assign blame for performance failures, we must confront the brutal facts, a concept made popular by Jim Collins in his book Good to Great. To confront the brutal facts means we make an honest assessment of our current situation—the good, the bad, and the ugly. If there is a gap between our reality and a desired state, chances are the cause for the gap is contained in the brutal facts. Some examples:

Desired state: Write an article for my blog two times a week

Actual state: Failure to consistently set aside writing time means no articles some weeks

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Desired state: Lose one pound per week

Actual state: Inconsistent monitoring of food intake means no net change

If I want things to get better with blog productivity and weight loss, I need to get better at exercising the discipline needed to overcome my current reality. My failures in these areas are not attributable to anything or anyone other than me. I resumed the path to those outcomes only after I confronted the reality that I was the problem. If you are unable or unwilling to confront the brutal facts, you can stop reading now. Nothing is going to change.

Don’t Wait for Motivation

If you’re still reading, I will take that as a sign you were willing to confront the brutal facts of your reality. You have set the stage for change by pinpointing the source of the problem. Now how do you go about effecting change? Do not wait for motivation to kick in, or you will be in the same place January 1 when you think about what you will change in 2019.

Conventional wisdom is motivation spurs action. I will write articles for the blog when the inspiration hits me. The discipline to make better food choices will come to me when my pants become a bit too snug. In these cases, I am waiting for motivation to prompt action. One small problem: If the motivation does not come,neither does the action.

Instead of waiting for motivation to come into your life, understand that action fuels motivation. We can help motivation find us by taking action. The satisfaction from completing small steps and seeing progress energizes us to do more. For example, if I waited to have sufficient motivation to write a book, I would never get around to it. Thankfully, I did not wait and have written four books.

As I looked back through notes on my latest book writing project, I observed that the chapters were written in 27 sessions over a 10-month period. Research for the book occurred in another 25-30 sessions. In total, I estimate spending 100 hours researching and writing this relatively short book.

The thought of spending 100 hours on such a project would be daunting, but what got me through it was momentum created by the progress made from researching and writing a single chapter. Completing one chapter excited me about moving on to the next topic. In short, make it easier for motivation to find you by taking action.

Second Half is Underway

Do things need to change in the second half of 2018? Do you accept that if you want things to get better, you need to get better? It can be painful to confront the brutal facts and acknowledge our role in our current situation. That said, we should be happy that: a) we have the ability to recognize our part in where we find ourselves, and b) we have the ability to do something about it.

I need to change in order for things to change in my life. I am ready—bring on the second half.

 

Control is an interesting state with which we interact. On one hand, many people wish they could take control of situations in order to get desired results. For example, if you like meticulously planning travel so that every aspect of a trip is covered, it can be challenging, even frustrating, to enjoy a trip with a group for which the itinerary is set by someone else. On the other hand, we may be quick to cede control when results do not go our way. Blame the weather, the economy, the neighbors, the boss, or any other external source that can be designated as the cause for undesired outcomes.

If you see yourself more as a victim of circumstance than guided by your choices, this week’s One to Grow On quote is a call to rethink the source of your outcomes. Author and leadership expert Stephen Covey, best known for writing The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, refused to allow us to play the “Oh Woe is Me” sad song.

The good news is our fate is not determined by chance and whims. Rather than depending on good luck or timely breaks to “make it,” we have control over reaching goals and experiencing personal growth.

A Bottle in the Sea

Despite Stephen Covey’s exhortation to see ourselves as a product of our decisions, we too often focus on circumstances as drivers of our outcomes. This thinking is like a bottle floating in the sea. Its direction is determined solely by the current and waves, helpless in navigating to a particular place for landfall. Moreover, we willingly accept and embrace external circumstances as reasons for our current state of affairs. Why do give over control of outcomes to circumstances?

• It’s easy. If something does not go according to our plan, it makes sense to blame external forces. After all, we would not wish failure upon ourselves. “Facing rejection by a graduate program or being passed over for a promotion must be due the decision makers, not me, right? I cannot help if they  did not recognize my abilities and value.” This line of reasoning is less time consuming and complex than a deeper evaluation of what I could do better to improve my chances in the future.
• It’s painless. Realizing you are not happy, healthy, or wealthy is one thing; pinning the shortcomings on your choices and behavior can be a painful step to take. Do I want to take the blame for adding extra pounds because I could not say no to desserts and late night snacks? Or, can I do my ego a favor and point to a hectic schedule or stressful work environment to justify treating myself to foods that contribute to weight gain? Yes, let’s blame schedule, job, or anything else that absolves me of the result.

Is it possible that circumstances can determine your outcome? Yes. Sometimes, external forces beyond our control throw a wrench into carefully developed plans. For example, numerous stories have been told in the past decade by Americans whose business (or employer’s business) was devastated by the economic recession that began in 2008. Successful businesses and prosperous employees were jolted into a new reality: failure. The plan was not to crash and burn, but the economy was not interested in their plans.

Take Control

If we accept the idea that we are a product of our decisions,  we have to move past shining the spotlight on circumstances. Rather than give external factors top billing in our life, shift the focus to taking control through decisions and actions. Is it easier said than done? Use these suggestions to take control:

• Make the decision to own it. We should be excited that we control our outcomes and that we are not tossed about like a bottle at sea. Recognizing we are not limited by circumstances is the first step toward breaking free of seeing ourselves as determined by outside forces.
• Remember past successes. When self-doubt creeps in about what determines your success, think back to times when your decisions or actions drove successful outcomes. For example, how did you manage your time when you made the Dean’s list while working two part-time jobs? You did not make the Dean’s list because you were lucky or won a lottery. Your decision to take control made it happen. Draw on past experiences of accomplishment to push through new challenges or uncertainties.
• Avoid negativity. You may decide to see yourself as the product of decisions instead of product of circumstances, but you will probably find yourself around others who prefer to tie their fate to circumstance. They find fault with politicians, their pastor, the homeowners association, climate, gas prices, or any other convenient explanation for their current state. Recognize the negative thinking when you encounter it and avoid, even if it means evaluating with whom you spend time.

Get Excited

Reminding ourselves we get to determine our own results through decisions could be the best news we hear all week. Embracing this mindset can smash many of the barriers that keep us from moving forward. Stop using the kids, household chores, or bank account as excuses for not stretching to achieve.

Nike is famous for its slogan “Just Do It.” The statement is simple and relevant in many situations. When it comes to personal and professional growth, “just do it” can be the difference between realizing dreams and wondering what might have been.

The One to Grow On quote this week is a hat tip to someone who expressed the same idea as Nike’s legendary slogan some 40 years earlier. Aviation pioneer Amelia Earhart lived a “just do it” life.  Earhart took her first airplane ride in her early 20s and knew right away she wanted to learn to fly.

Amelia Earhart learned to fly, for sure. Her list of accomplishments included:

• First woman to pilot a plane across the Atlantic Ocean
• First woman to fly solo across the Atlantic Ocean
• First person to fly solo across the Pacific Ocean (Hawaii to California)
• Flew solo from Mexico City to Newark, New Jersey
• Attempted to become first woman to fly around the world

Earhart’s achievements were not without risks, including the attempt to fly around the world that ultimately took her life. The dangers of the flights Earhart made would prevent many people from even thinking about trying.

According to her biography, Earhart recognized and embraced the risks. “Please know I am quite aware of the hazards,” she said. “I want to do it because I want to do it.” Earhart put her life on the line in pursuit of what she wanted to do. We step out of line when far less is required of us.

What Holds Us Back?

Imagine if Amelia Earhart was encountering airplanes up close for the first time today. She could have fallen head-over-heels in love with aviation just as she did in the 1930s. Her newly found interest could have been extinguished quickly by thoughts such as:

• “Flying lessons are probably too expensive”
• “Being a pilot would affect my life insurance premium”
• “My friends might criticize me for taking up a dangerous hobby”
• “I need to pay off all of my debt before I begin flying”
• “It is the busiest time of year at work right now. I might take it up in a few months.”

Whew! I am exhausted covering inaction with reasons that Earhart might not take up flying if she was a twenty-something today. If we follow Amelia Earhart’s advice, we should avoid falling into traps of over-planning, over-analyzing, and over-worrying about possible outcomes.

Two possible outcomes trouble us when we take on new ventures. One outcome is understandably worrisome: “What if I fail?” Most of us despise failure for many reasons. Failure damages our self-esteem, can make us look bad in the eyes of others, and even bring on negative financial or relationship consequences.

The other outcome that should be no issue at all holds us back more than we realize: “What if I succeed?” It seems ludicrous to suggest that the result we want from a venture could be the very reason we hesitate to chase it. However, growth entails change, and we may resist anything that pushes us beyond our comfort zone. A promotion could require moving to a new city. A well-received article or book could put you in front of audiences speaking and presenting. A new relationship could force re-evaluation of existing ones. Oh, the hidden dangers of “just do it!”

Get on Board

This week, take Amelia Earhart’s advice and focus on action. Rather than striving for perfection before launching a new idea, act on an idea and work out any flaws as you go. Some entrepreneurs advocate the concept of minimum viable product (MVP). In a nutshell, MVP emphasizes getting a new idea to market, learn from customer feedback, and adapt the offering as needed.

MVP is counter to getting a product “just right” before launch. Of course, a product needs to be valuable to its users. That condition does not mean the product must have all possible features and functions from the outset. Take it to market, get user feedback, and improve it. At the heart of MVP is Amelia Earhart’s belief that “the most effective way to do it is to do it.”

A “do it” mindset does not mean you are chucking plans and strategy out the window. It means you refuse to let them become obstacles to growth.

Are you ready to “just do it” this week?