The Lost Art of Conversation

Some people say that customer service is not what it used to be. That point registered with me recently through an observation made by my 12-year-old son. We were shopping at a local department store, taking advantage of great deals on men’s clothing. As we checked out, the sales associate was very pleasant and talkative. She told us about other sale items and even about purse snatchings that had taken place at area stores.
We walked away and my son remarked “she sure was full of herself, wasn’t she!” When I asked what he meant, he said that she talked a lot. I paused momentarily and it hit me why he made that observation: That level of personal touch has become the exception rather than the rule in customer service. “That is how it is supposed to be” was my response. Traditionally, department stores have been known for delivering a personal touch. Sadly, that experience is delivered less frequently today. My professional career in marketing began in retail management for a department store. Our associates were required to write 10 thank-you notes to customers weekly. Timely approach of customers was expected. Sales associates were to be more than cashiers and serve as a resource to customers.
My son’s perceptions of what customer service is (and is not) have been shaped by mostly unremarkable interactions with service providers. Not necessarily bad service, but not the kind of experiences that you walk away from and go “wow – that was great.” A generation is being acclimated to “service” being driven by technologies such as self-checkout and online ordering. Measures of service quality are based more on the reliability of the technology than the personal attention given. 
It almost sounds funny to say that conversation can be a brand differentiator. But, my son’s take on what is extraordinary customer service suggests that a personal touch has the ability to stand out in an environment that is often more concerned with transaction efficiency. Embrace the art of conversation – show customers that you value their business and more importantly that you value them.

Author: Don Roy

Don Roy is a marketing educator, blogger, and author. His thirty-year career began with roles in retail management, B2B sales, and franchise management. For the past 22 years, Don has shared his passion for marketing as a marketing professor. Don's teaching and research interests include brands, sports marketing, and social media marketing. Don has authored over 20 articles in scholarly journals, co-authored two textbooks, and self-published three books on personal branding. Don is an avid hockey fan and enjoys running. He and his wife, Sara, have three sons.

One thought on “The Lost Art of Conversation”

  1. I completely agree Dr. Roy. From my very first job at age 15 until this present day Customer Service has always been a part of job and profession. It is something that I have always taken pride in as well because I am a firm believer that the employees are ultimately the face of any company and will set the tone for the customers experience and chances of returning. I am constantly complimented on my service level by predominantly elderly people and rarely ever younger people even though my service levels remain the same. It’s service that we as a younger generation are no longer seeing as often anymore and consequently no longer expecting it. It is indeed a lost art.

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